“Will you commit to our friendship?”
Can y’all imagine how awesome it would be if friendship proposals were a thing?
My dreams are typically pretty vivid, and I usually remember them the next day. Also, not gonna lie; they’re usually pretty darn spot on when it comes to the stuff in my head that’s making me bajiggity. The main theme within this one particular dream was that I was on this seriously HUGE ASS ship with some other people, but like it was like, out of control huge. Ridiculous, even. Anywhoots, we’d just been sailing, docked and were waiting for something before we departed.
I’m sure this giant ass ship had nothing at all to do with the feelings I’m experiencing as someone who is trying to run her own business, re-brand in the new year, learn everything I can learn about business, design, production, budgeting, etc. all by myself.
I digress.
At the risk of sounding like a complete loon (I know, I know - “TOO LATE, HILL!”), one small portion of the dream provided some comic relief which I desperately needed. As I sat on the top of the docked ship next to some people I did not know, Kara Kull of Serious Mom Fun joined me in people watching.
It turns out, however, that she also had an agenda. As we sat and chatted it up a bit, we noticed a cis, straight couple standing nearby. After a few minutes, the dude awkwardly got down on one knee and we knew he was about to propose but for some reason, he was having a hard time getting to it. Also, the woman did not seem to piece it together; I guess thought that he was tying his shoe? Looking for something he dropped? We weren’t totally sure, but we watched with bated breath for a few moments while he continued to fumble around and not get to the actual proposal.
After a few minutes of trying to be patient and not steal this dude’s thunder Kara hilariously lost her patience and said, “Okay, I don’t have time for this. I got you something.”
Ya snooze ya lose, bud!
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As she sat next to me, her feet tucked under her on the bench with one arm on the top of the bench she handed me a box. I opened the box and it was a ring! Kara had proposed a committed friendship to me, and it was seriously awesome! The ring wasn’t exactly my taste (and honestly, I don’t think hers based on what I know of her style but we can talk about that later, Kara!) Granted, Kara and I have met in person exactly once so IRL I imagine this would be moving a little too fast for us, but the sentiment was awesome!
Seriously, what a freakin’ great idea: proposing committed friendship!
Why do we [in American culture, anyway] diminish the significance of close friendships? Healthy friendships provide support, love, warmth, a safety net when romantic or familial relationships go down the crapper and yet, they somehow are significantly undervalued.
Most notably when it comes to close friendships, they are chosen. No one is obligated (be it legally or biologically) to love or support you, or tolerate your bad days or crappy attitude when you have a fight with your significant other. Close friends stick around because they just freakin’ love you and in a good friendship, all they want is your friendship back.
THAT’S FREAKIN’ IT.
In the spirit of the holiday season quickly creeping up, please make sure to take time to let your close friends know how important they are. Send a text, grab coffee with them or stop by their house just to tell them.
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In friendship and cheesecake,