We're off to Golden-Con!
I swear in another post I will address the year+ long hiatus that just took place. That said…
Courtney and I leave tomorrow morning for Golden-Con.
Last week I had the delightful experience of severe stomach acid. When stomach acid hits me and lasts for days at a time there’s only one thing that causes it: anxiety.
If you experience anxiety, what are your physical symptoms?
As soon as I started to make a To Do list for the following day the stomach acid re-emerged. I was telling my husband about how (un)prepared I feel about this event. I said, "I don't know why I do this. No matter how much I prepare or what I do I always feel like it's not enough. Always, always, always." Anyone else? Bueller?
Here is what helped me about this: this idea that you will never actually reach that goal of provides a sort of odd relief because you will never actually get to that place you deem to be “enough.” Whatever you're trying to accomplish could always have been better in some capacity. It truly will never attain perfection and that inability to feel "done" is what continues to spark creativity and ingenuity. Imagine a world without that! It serves a purpose not to make us feel inadequate, but to catapult us into new challenges.
Here's my question for you:
When you say you want to get something "done," do you actually mean done or do you mean perfect?
Spoiler alert: done and perfect are not synonymous! Perfect is a concept that's not based on reality. It's merely an idea.
Hey, wait! I have an idea! Peanut butter that can fly! I sure hope the texture of my hair and its ability to blow in the wind will look exactly like this non-existent peanut butter that can fly.
Wait, so I should not do that comparison? Why not?
I’ll tell you why! It makes no logical sense to compare something real with something that doesn't exist.
An exercise for you to consider
Hold up the sandwich you just made in front of your face. Now look at the air next to it. I'm serious! Hold it up and look at the space next to it.
How does that air taste? Better or worse than that sandwich?? ANSWER THE QUESTION! That's right, you can't.
…because it’s unabashed ludicrous-ity.
If nothing else I hope this exercise, at the very least, makes you laugh.
This mind shift helped me a lot today. Generally speaking, anxiety has gone up for so many people in the past couple years. We need any and all tools available to get through it.
With heaps of warmth, gratitude and gusto,